How to Grow Old together

Each individual has his/her destiny, mission in life and own ways of fulfilling it. If one does not compare himself/herself with others and does not compare the life partner with others, they can both live happily ever after, which means they manage to resolve their conflicts in a rather nice manner. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/how-to-grow-old-together

Inedible Mushrooms

I see this coincidence of running into my neighbor at exactly the right time as an award for having been brave despite all my fears. I listened to my intuition instead of listening to my fears and the intuition led me to the right person. I am really grateful for this experience. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/inedible-mushrooms Take care, Helena Smole

Writer’s Working Week

However, it is very dangerous to find yourself overwhelmed with attacks of self-accusation, when you cannot write. Thus in my opinion it is wise for writers to have several activities at hand for the non-inspirational weeks. Remember: No Sweat No Glory …. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/writers-working-week

Concrete Thinking Patterns

I might be wrong about the whole conflict between the youngsters and the grown-ups, but I have a very strong feeling that some grown-ups are so afraid of changing their thinking patterns that they tend to make them firm using concrete just in case. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/concrete-thinking-patterns

Lightworkers

Lightworkers have simply come to rebalance the yin and yang. Just like an electrician would come to repair your electricity installation in your home. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/lightworkers Take care, Helena Smole

Emotional Coldness

Some time ago somebody asked me about an emotional outburst and what to do about it. The person identified yearlong emotional coldness as the reason for the sudden state of being overwhelmed with sadness. I was asked for advice. Since emotional coldness is a very common problem in our Western world, I decided to share the basic outlines of my answer with you here. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/emotional-coldness

Read My Lips

Let us be patient with ourselves, for we have learned the mistakes by imitating, which is a very powerful way of learning. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/read-my-lips

The Trap of Being a Pessimist

Pessimism is a very common thinking pattern nowadays. It is accompanied by a well-known reasoning: 'I choose pessimism, because I hate to be disappointed.' Thus pessimism seems to be the safe way through life. But is it really? What if it escalates to depression? And even if it does not – do we really want to be miserable for 70 or even 100 years, simply in order to avoid disappointment? Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/the-trap-of-being-a-pessimist

Share Compassion

Maybe we should just share compassion, when we have it. And hold back and try to do no damage, when we lack compassion due to our emotional stress or physical pain etc. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/share-compassion

The End of Whining

Whining is well developed in our country. It is almost a national sport. So the next time somebody starts whining about the hot weather, I am going to ask him or her to join me in my daily jogging. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/the-end-of-whining

My New Volunteering

After 4 years I got tired of volunteering there and I automatically assumed that I was a bad person. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/my-new-volunteering

Formula for Success

To sum up: the successful people are not hurt or at least they recover quickly, when almost nobody seems to remember the effort they have been putting into their projects. Let alone the scorn they have been exposed to due to their extra effort. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/formula-for-success

A Few Words on Competition

You should not be afraid of your competition: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/a-few-words-on-competition Take care, Helena Smole

Be a Contrarian

Be a Contrarian The other day I decided to walk from one bus stop to another instead of taking the city bus the whole way. Since the next bus stop was right next to a gas station, I popped into the gas station store for my favorite coffee to go: Latte macchiato. I drank my favorite coffee in something you could call semi-company, standing behind a small round counter-high table. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/be-a-contrarian

Why Own Your Own Car

I remember the hallucination clearly. It was a sign to give up trying to be perfect. Thus I do not drive anymore. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/why-own-your-own-car

An Incident from Kindergarten

That is how I know that I have been programmed to be compassionate by birth. And no matter how often people take advantage of me, I will never change. I cannot. But I can walk away. I am nobody's slave. Read more: http://www.helenasmole.com/2012/an-incident-from-kindergarten Take care, Helena Smole